The M Word

Depressed? Distressed? Demoralised?

  • Do you feel out of control of your life?

  • Are you prone to outbursts of anger, frustration, tears and insecurity?

  • Are you currently taking antidepressants/anxiolytics?

  • Have you a history of seeing health professionals with nothing appearing to really work?

  • Are you struggling to cope with life’s emotions and/or stress?

  • Do you feel worn down by other people and/or life events?

Lavinia Dowling has been described by her first line Manager in the NHS as ‘The eternal living antidepressant’ with her positive and engaging personality towards others whether they be clients or colleagues.

We experience more emotions in a day than we do eating cornflakes in a lifetime”, The Telegraph, 2008. 

We have the ability to do anything if we put our minds to it – ‘mind over matter’. However, it’s imperative we take into account our emotions. Our thoughts and feelings are intertwined, but so often we ignore them and regret it later.

More often than not we can maintain control of our lives and work at making our lives happier and more fulfilled. But there are times we find this really difficult :  lack of job/status, little money, poor quality of life, struggling relationships, sad, tearful, etc. all keep us at a low mood level that can often deteriorate into depression. When our mental health is impacted, we find that our thoughts and feelings about ourselves are negative which often is associated with negative coping mechanisms.

You are the architect of your life”…  ShirleyMaclaine.

Emotional Problem Solving

Lavinia’s proprietary Emotional Problem Solving approach is a tri-combination talking therapy embracing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Interpersonal Therapy (IPT), and Counselling.

CBT challenges our negative thoughts and feelings, IPT explores our relationships and their impact, and Counselling teaches us to listen to ourselves.

Emotional Problem Solving consists of an initial assessment (1.5hrs) followed by further sessions (1hr +) through a choice of packages depending on your needs.

Your Clinical Nurse Therapist is only a phone call away if you need support through the therapy. Telephone, videolink, text, or email support continues to be offered throughout the therapy.

Lavinia has always asserted that “Mental Health affects everybody, not just anybody!” from the moment we are conceived to the moment we die. It is important to know ourselves really well to enable us to recognise the triggers that impact on our mental health, as well as our physical health, but also the right coping mechanisms that empower us, build our confidence and resilience.

Fact: 1 in 4 People Will Experience Mental Illness in Their Lifetime

Mental health still has a tremendous stigma attached to it. Little wonder that people do not associate themselves with it for fear of negative repercussions.

Sadly, mental health is very poorly misunderstood. Many of us readily identify with stress…..which is mental ill health!

Many of us have learnt negative coping mechanisms to deaden our emotions and cover up the problem/stress by smoking (cigarettes/drugs), alcohol, overworking, under/over eating, etc…

But when we stop, these emotions resurface and impact our daily lives. If they are not dealt with, our self-esteem comes under attack (mental/emotional immunity). Once our self-esteem is exposed we are prone to mental illness.

Emotional Problem Solving simply aims to:

  • Empower the client to regain control of their life without the use of medication (e.g., anti-depressants/anxiolytics) or negative coping mechanisms (e.g. alcohol/drugs/sex/self-harm).

  • Maintain clients’ confidentiality.

  • Remain non-judgemental.

  • Uphold an open and honest relationship.

These are the key attributes to our success! We value each and every client as a unique individual. We treat each client as a VIP, as this starts the process of their recovery.

By being non-judgemental, maintaining confidentiality and discretion, we allow the client to relax immediately and not fear the stigma of mental health. The client is encouraged to talk freely and at length about their emotional problems.

Our clients often say they have been ‘given a licence’ to think about themselves. Many have commented on the comfort of the confidential and non-judgemental approach.

“The inner journey, at times has been a very painful one, but exciting too as I discover more and more the underlying factors and influences that originally led me to allowing myself to fall into a very low state. Having more understanding of this, and gaining in confidence, I am starting to see myself as a person who has the power to change things!” Lisa Mayall How to Look Good Naked? May 2007

The Role of the Emotional Problem Solving Nurse Consultant Is to:

  • Help clients identify problematic issues.

  • Help recognise the triggers that attack their self-esteem.

  • Teach new positive coping mechanisms for life.

  • Provide telephone/text/email support.

  • So don’t delay. Make the first positive step TODAY!

Contact us

Telephone: 07928 232 037


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